Someone in the family has been stretched too thin for months now. I am truly sorry for her. Having been in those situations many times in life, I know how stressful it is to be relied on by too many people. You begin innocently by putting out other people’s fires. Then suddenly you are starting to forget things. By the time you realise that you are being drag into a never-ending tunnel, you are already so deeply buried it is difficult to escape on your own.
I have been there, I have done those. My current lifestyle has allowed me to develop the wonderful kung-fu of saying no. Being kind to oneself is not a wrong-doing.